Note to self…

 I’m learning lessons from the demise of my relationship with my SIL…

 

1) Don’t let someone get comfortable with disrespecting you. ‘Nuff said.
 2) I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet. I totally get this one, because all I’ve been trying to do since our relationship died, is CLEANSE my mind with positivity, new boundaries, meditation and yoga. Six months along and I’m getting there.

  3) Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions. Tara Brach‘s talks and meditations have been CRUCIAL in this.

  4) Your peace is more important than driving yourself crazy trying to understand why something happened the way it did. Let it go. I’ve always struggled in the past with this…over and over people have told me to let it go. Finally, I’ve learned this lesson. I accept I will never understand narcissistic behaviour…I don’t actually want to, but I will seek to understand how to manage myself around narcissists (refer back to note # 1).

I’ve accepted that my SIL is who she is, I can’t change her. But I can change me. And I am. I am getting stronger every single day. And I received a divine download a few days ago…I’m GLAD she isn’t involved in my life anymore! She was over-bearing, gossipy and overall, just not my type of person. I feel free! So she has actually done me a favour. And that realisation (plus Tara Brach) has made forgiveness a whole lot easier.
WG

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2 thoughts on “Note to self…

  1. BecHanson says:

    “…I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet…” I love that one, hard to do but recognising that they are the one messing it up and not letting them do it is really important. We’ve got to control who we let in because once they are in there they can stay for such a long time. You sound like you’re doing really well, keep it up.

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